The bride who met her husband online
Scribblings - Jul 4, 2021 Author: Jeanette Green

The bride who met her husband online

A parable
There was a woman who met her husband online. She got to know him from his photos, the messages he sent her, their phone calls, and what others said about him. He was the king of another country, and there was plenty of news coverage about all the wonderful things he did for the citizens of his country. She got engaged to the king and couldn’t wait for their wedding day, couldn’t wait to move to his country and become one of the citizens who benefited from this man’s good heart.

But all the time that they dated, she never saw him in person. When the time for their wedding came and her husband-to-be came to get her, she was shocked to find that this man didn’t always smile. Sometimes he was angry, sometimes he was sad. And his job, being a king - why did no one tell her, that sometimes he had to make harsh decisions to ensure the safety of the kingdom? Where was the news coverage about that?

The bride found herself discouraged, disillusioned, the stars in her eyes, drowned by her tears. Perhaps, if there had been objective news coverage about the king… Still, as she thought of it, she remembered reading about some of the rules the king governed his country by. When she read those rules, she thought her fiance would never have made those kinds of rules, that surely he wouldn’t enforce them. No, she thought her fiance was too sweet, too kind. She didn’t see her fiance for who he really was. She already had a picture in her mind of him, she saw what she wanted to, not the reality.

Set-up for failure
I have experienced various church denominations and heard a myriad of different interpretations of who Jesus is and what He can and can’t do. The sermons I heard influenced my thinking, yet I really understood Jesus to be who I want him to be. My pain taker.

But I discovered that Jesus doesn’t always take my pain. Sometimes He inflicts pain on me. Because discipline, while it is being performed, is painful. And God disciplines those He loves. Sometimes, He leaves those thorns in place, no matter how much I beg and plead for him to remove them. God is both kind and severe. He is always good, but his ‘good’ doesn’t always feel good to me.

Now that the world is shaking around us, I wonder if the bride is prepared. If she knows the time of her wedding is drawing near. That she understands this about the coming king – He is both merciful and just. There is healing oil flowing from him, but He is a consuming fire.

Are our houses built on the Rock? Do we know the Truth, who sets us free? Or do we have an image in our minds of him, one that is rosy and not framed with thorns?

It is time to wake up. Let us surrender to Jesus’ will and yield to the Potter’s hand, constantly on us, shaping us. Yes, even to the fire of our testing.

2Ti 4:3-5>The time will come when people will not listen to sound doctrine, but will follow their own desires and will collect for themselves more and more teachers who will tell them what they are itching to hear. They will turn away from listening to the truth and give their attention to legends. But you must keep control of yourself in all circumstances; endure suffering, do the work of a preacher of the Good News, and perform your whole duty as a servant of God.


Father God, thank you for your mercy and grace. Thank you, that You are just, too. God, please help us to know You for who you are. Help us to renew our minds so that we will have the mind of Christ. Give us an understanding of your discipline, your refining process of us. Help us love the truth - let us not be deceived by false teachings or even false miracles, signs, and wonders. Lord, anchor us on a foundation of Rock. Help us, God, so that we will not fall away, as You shake all things that can be shaken. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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